No matter who you are, how much you weigh or how healthy your confidence usually is, we could ALL do with a bit of a body confidence boost from time to time. Whether you’re fat, skinny, muscly, tall or short, there’s a brand of body shaming that fits your type. But walking around with a negative, ‘I’m never good enough’ mentality, only robs us of some of life’s enjoyment.
It’s okay if there’s things about your body that you wish you could change. However, there’s no need to stand in front of the mirror and subject yourself to harmful scrutiny.
Flaws and all, YOU are unique, special and oh so much more than the number on those scales! So, how do you accept your body the way it is? These tips will help you to start to improve your body confidence and learn to truly love the body you naturally have.
1. Focus on What You Already Love About Yourself
Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about your body, remind yourself of the qualities you already love. Don’t just look at the physical things, are you a great cook? Are you always trying to help others? Are you a great mom, daughter, brother, sister or partner?
If you’re having trouble thinking of your good qualities, think about how your family and friends see yourself or ask them. Which of your inner qualities are you proud of? What makes you unique? Do you possess the qualities you usually admire in other people?
For every negative thought that pops up about your body, remind yourself of one thing that makes you great! Just doing this one step alone can make a huge difference to your body confidence.
2. Talk to Yourself Like You Would to Someone You Love
In your whole life, nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself – Don Miguel Ruiz
Would you tell your best friend, sister or mom that she shouldn’t go to the beach unless she loses that little bit of pudge? I hope you’d tell her to throw on something she feels comfortable in and get her ass to the beach to have a great time!
It’s time we started treating OURSELVES with the respect and kindness we demand of everyone else. So, if you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, don’t say it to yourself.
3. Realize That Your Body Is Always Changing
Whether we like it or not, everything in life is always changing. And that includes your body. Even if you finally manage to get down to your target body weight, it’s not some magic end goal that’s going to stay that way without work. Yes, it is easier to maintain weight rather than lose it but if you stop exercising and start eating less healthy foods, the muscle you’ve worked hard to build will disappear and your weight might begin to creep up.
As we age and go through all of life’s stages, our bodies naturally change. But, it’s okay!
You might be slim while you’re young, put on a bit of weight when you’re busy trying to establish a career and end up building an athletic figure when you make time to hit the gym. All of your looks are beautiful in their own way. Rock them, love it and own the things that make you, you!
4. Enjoy Your Body!
Your body wasn’t made to be a source for self-criticism and loathing. It was made to move, to feel and to enjoy this world and your life! Appreciate it for all that it can do! Dance, hike to incredible places, dress yourself in clothes that make a statement, grow a child and try to make a real difference in this world.
Imagine what your life could be like if you stopped nit-picking all the things you didn’t like about your body…
How much more time would you have? What could you achieve if your body insecurities weren’t holding you back? What would it be like to live with the self-acceptance that comes from being confident in your own body?
Having good body confidence isn’t an attribute, it’s a habit. It would be great if you could just flick a switch and love your body completely tomorrow, but you can love it a little bit more! Walk away from the mirror, remind yourself why you’re great and start to treat yourself how you deserve to be treated.